Sex Struggles: Why Does He Choose Porn When I'm Right There?

In this episode today we’re gonna tackle a question sent in by a woman worrying about her man watching porn, which is something a lot of women have a problem with.

Can anyone help me understand why some men are so hung up on porn? I mean, occasionally maybe.... but several nights a week? How am I suppose to feel adequate when he's watching very young, very sexy women having sex that often?

Ok so I’m gonna answer the question you asked on the surface and then after that... I’m gonna tell you the answer to what you really wanna know… How to get him to want to ravish you like you think he’s doing to the porn chics in his mind several nights a week? Cuz wut you mean “how you supposed to feel adequate…”? It’s a fucking computer screen. You’re already winning. You literally got titties and a warm pussy within arms reach. A computer screen could neva...could neva! What you need is a lil confidence in yourself and some sensual intelligence, but I’ma talk about that in a bit. First, your question...

Why are some men hung up on porn? Well… Let’s look at how sex is viewed differently by men and women, in both the modern sense and the evolutionary sense. Starting with Primal Sexual Roles - (And i ain’t said shit about none of this being PC or all-inclusive… it just is what it is. When I say man and woman, take it to mean the masculine and the feminine, giver/receiver. Whatever.)

Men are “sexual hunters” and in an evolutionary sense, he’s supposed to guarantee his genetic succession by spreading his seed as far and wide as he can by having sex with as many women as he can… just like the animals in the jungle. That internal primal urge doesn’t go away just because we live in modern times and things are different... it’s just tempered by his rational thought because fucking any and everything like that it’s not acceptable in “polite” society. What it’s not, however… is an emotional thing, unless he wants it to be. Hell, it’s not even an erotic thing. It’s a nut thing.

See for women, evolutionarily speaking, sex comes at a higher cost just for the simple fact that she can get pregnant, carry another human being for 9 months, and be emotionally connected to that being for an entire lifetime. Making sex a much more emotional experience for women right out the evolutionary gate. That’s been relaxed some on the surface in modern times due to things like birth control and feminist sexual revolution and shit like that, but that same evolutionary pull exists in her, no matter how free-spirited and sexually liberated she is.

So, he already ain’t feeling about it the same way you’re feeling about it, just from that standpoint alone. And understand that men can separate their sexual fantasies from their sexual reality because they just don’t think they can get that disgustingly raw, unapologetic fucking from you without having to connect all the emotional mumbo jumbo. Like you really have to make room for the fact that he could literally be rubbing one out cuz he’s fucking bored and nothing’s on tv, cuz you sound like you got a hangup about it and you think the only reason he’s watching porn is cuz he hot for the sexy young thangs on the screen. Sure, he prolly enjoys a good visual, men are visual creatures, ya know… but I doubt that’s his motivation either. Hey… you know what he’s doing when he’s watching porn… he’s not sticking his dick inside of other women, yaaaaayyyy! That would be some shit you need to worry about, right?